Anthropology

I'm better today. I'm being proactive in my search for answers as far as finding "Mr Right" as apposed to "Mr Right Now". I'm reading a facinating book written by J M Kearns called "Why Mr. Right Can't Find You" which in my humble opinion is an honest and hopeful account of the ways we sabatoge our relationships and our quest for finding the right person for us.

Which brings me to the topic, Anthropology. Which is the study of humankind. And does a lot to expain the way our brains are "hardwired" to chose our mates and why it is that in this day and age many relationships fail. The book then goes on to explain how men choose women and how women choose men. I'm having a hard time putting this book down!

One thing it said is the way to be sure you always find a "player" or a "liar" or a manipulative "bad dude" is to put in a profile that you are not looking for that in a relationship which just tells this type of person you are gullible and trusting and all they have to do is tell you they do not have those horrible character traits and you will believe them if they just play the part for a while. It says that most honest people will admit they have (at times) lied or done something they are not proud of. And this makes sense because after all, we have all lied about something at some point. We have all hurt people unintentionally. We are not perfect.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

More Anthropology

Another interesting tidbit: monagamy is not a natural state. The natural state was that men had lots of partners to perpetuate the species and women lived with this man in groups (with the other "wives") and these other women were their main social contact during days when the men were on the hunt for food to survive. Over the course of time it became socially unacceptable in our society for a man to have more than one wife. But they are still "hardwired" with urges that some can supress and others, not so much. Things that make ya go hmmmmmmmmm!
Read more

The Eye of the Beholder

So after studying up a little on how to present myself in an online profile, I created a totally new one. I wrote it up yesterday and posted it with the promise of current pictures to come. Without the pictures I got 3 responses and got pretty stoked that this might be the beginning of some dating action. So I ran home last night and took (what I thought) were some decent pictures of lil ol me. Now I have ALWAYS taken awful pictures and it's difficult to get one I actually like. These weren't perfect. I need a haircut. But they weren't awful, either. So I posted them this morning and NOTHING! Not even a nibble! I know I should be patient but come on! No picture=nibbles. Picture=NOTHING?????? Guess I'll get that haircut!
Read more

What goes around comes around--The karma bus has arrived.

I have really bad love karma. Seems like there is no equity for me and love. equity [ˈɛkwɪtɪ] n pl -ties 1. the quality of being impartial or reasonable; fairness 2. an impartial or fair act, decision, etc.   Either I care and he doesn't or he cares and I don't. This led me (recently) to tell a really nice man goodbye to be with (what turned out to be) a not so nice man. Who said, incidently, "he was NOT a player" and asked "do you want to go steady?". Then cancelled a date and disappeared. So I guess this is karma. And a vicious circle.
Read more